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Being a middleman

Reading Time: 5 minutes I am a 32 yo female bisexual who has always leaned more toward women than men. However, I met the man who made me want to have a serious relationship (44 yo male) and grow old with. He also met another female (43 yo female) he was interested in.  I am a free spirit and …

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Unclear communication

Reading Time: 6 minutes When reading through all the stories in managing difficult emotions i was wondering if i could share mine? Mostly because I have a lot of monogamous friends who constantly prove me right when I’m just scared and want to find a way to get over these feelings, maybe even be able to bond with her …

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Privacy boundaries

Reading Time: 3 minutes I have been in a relationship with a man in an open marriage for 3 years. In the beginning I was told his wife read our texts out of fear of him leaving her. After a year it became clear I had no interest in “stealing” her husband. However, she continues to read our text whenever …

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Left out of a thruple

Reading Time: 5 minutes My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have kids, cars, a home, and careers built together. We’ve been off and on exploring non monogamy in many forms for about 7 of these years. We’ve tried dating together and it didn’t work out for multiple reasons, but the main thing we got …

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Scared of competition

Reading Time: 6 minutes My wife and I just decided (well she did) that we should try and open relationship. At first I was devastated but we talked and over a few weeks we’ve been more honest about things than we ever have. We absolutely love each other, we have 3 kids and a house, good jobs, the dream …

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No sign is a sign

Reading Time: 2 minutes I’ve been “hanging out” with J for about 3 years. We agreed in the beginning it would be an open friendship allowing us both to date and see other people. After 2 years of hanging out we both established we care for each other but haven’t set any terms of what we are to each …

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Changing agreements

Reading Time: 3 minutes My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We’ve been practicing polyam off and on throughout our marriage. Recently we decided to open up. We made agreements and decided on our relationship dynamic. He met someone and didn’t say anything. I finally figured it out and asked directly about her. He said she …

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