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Regret after opening

Reading Time: 5 minutes My wife and I have been together for 17 years and very happily married for 13 years.For the majority of our marriage she has been unhappy in her own skin triggered by being over weight.  This lead to not wanting to engage in sexual activity. In the past 12 months she has lost an incredible …

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Becoming a third

Reading Time: 5 minutes Up until 2 months ago, I had no previous experience with poly[am] dating or poly[am] relationships. What draws me to solo poly[am] is I have very deep needs around emotional connection and physical intimacy, but I don’t want kids or to raise a family, I enjoy living alone, and I love a lot of alone …

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Preventing hurt feelings

Reading Time: 7 minutes I am fairly new to the world of non-monogamy, having only been introduced to it in May 2020. Through learning about the different constructs that can be applied to a designer relationship I have discovered that this lifestyle could suit me well. Mostly as it encourages me to address the multitude of insecurities and other …

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HSV 2 and polyamory

Reading Time: 3 minutes I’ve been in a wonderful V-triad for 3 years and I love my partner & metamour! Recently, I tested positive for genital herpes and they’ve both been beyond supportive but they seem *too supportive* which I didn’t think could be possible. I suggested closing our triad indefinitely and even permanently to minimize risk and my …

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Fidelity and grief

Reading Time: 4 minutes I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying… Cancer… 2016 and 2018… My wife couldn’t handle the effect of my ADHD with my grief which caused severe anxiety and depression… I can’t really say I blame her. I was a nightmare. She has endometriosis so sex happens little …

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Rules about love

Reading Time: 4 minutes My partner and I got married recently, which in these COVID-19 times was amazing! A month before the wedding however he said that he would like to start exploring non-monogamy separately. In the past we would explore together or under the same roof. I agreed and We spoke about acceptable boundaries at the time. He …

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Cheating and polyamory

Reading Time: 2 minutes I am at my wit’s end. I was engaged to be married this summer; in the fall (we postponed for COVID), my fiancé confessed he had cheated on me extensively over years. I already had a bunch of concerns about his behavior in our relationship that I sort of stuffed and I tried many times …

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