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Fidelity and grief

Reading Time: 4 minutes I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying… Cancer… 2016 and 2018… My wife couldn’t handle the effect of my ADHD with my grief which caused severe anxiety and depression… I can’t really say I blame her. I was a nightmare. She has endometriosis so sex happens little …

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Rules about love

Reading Time: 4 minutes My partner and I got married recently, which in these COVID-19 times was amazing! A month before the wedding however he said that he would like to start exploring non-monogamy separately. In the past we would explore together or under the same roof. I agreed and We spoke about acceptable boundaries at the time. He …

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Cheating and polyamory

Reading Time: 2 minutes I am at my wit’s end. I was engaged to be married this summer; in the fall (we postponed for COVID), my fiancé confessed he had cheated on me extensively over years. I already had a bunch of concerns about his behavior in our relationship that I sort of stuffed and I tried many times …

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Giving up a marriage

Reading Time: 3 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. I’m a married man of 30 years, and have made the decision that the rest of my years, which …

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Rejecting someone slowly

Reading Time: 3 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. So my best friend is polyamorous, I’m monogamous, and (I’m 99.9% sure) my girlfriend is monogamous. (We’re all girls …

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Managing a triad

Reading Time: 4 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. My wife and I have been together for 20 years, being married 14 of those years. The last 12 …

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How to ask for reassurance

Reading Time: 6 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. Much of the advice I have seen about dealing with jealousy in polyamorous relationships involves telling your partner so …

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