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The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix
About the Podcast
Non-Monogamy Help is released every other week and features a read aloud anonymised written letter or a recorded voice clip. The podcast is available on Anchor and wherever you get your podcasts as well as an RSS feed. More about the history of the podcast on the About page.
Non-Monogamy Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.
Most Recent Episodes
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Episode 75: Overreacting
Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How
Episode 74: Dating Friendly
In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth
Episode 73: Caveat Emptor
It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory
Episode 72: Problematic Pedestal
When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That’s what’s on this
Episode 71: Feelings and Friends
We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules
Episode 70: Half Ghosting
What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different.
Episode 69: Self-Sacrificing Too Much
If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after
Episode 68: Mismatched Labels
If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of
Episode 67: Temporary Monogamy
Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Episode 66: Hidden Metamour
Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. That’s what’s
Episode 65: No Longer Primary
How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is
Episode 64: What Rules to Have
Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That’s what’s on this
Episode 63: Visualising Your Partner
What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That’s what’s on this
Episode 62: More Metamour Toxicity
Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That’s what’s
Episode 61: PTSD and Polyamory
A previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop?
Episode 60: Temporarily Open
Can opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion
Episode 59: Feeling Disconnected
If COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling
Episode 58: Sexual Incompatibility
After more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are
Episode 57: Begging For Time
You’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with
Episode 56: Escalating Past a Metamour
Your partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? *A metamour is a
Episode 55: How Much is Too Much?
How much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That’s what’s on this
Episode 54: Sacrificing Too Much
When you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get
Episode 53: Forgiving Mistakes
You have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That’s what’s on
Episode 52: Anxious After Marriage
Anxiety can often become so overwhelming that you begin thinking non-monogamy just isn't for you. That’s what’s on this week’s
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