What is a polycule?

A polycule refers to all of the individuals involved within a set of interconnected relationships. In the context of polyamory, it can be thought of as a network of people who share romantic, sexual, or emotional bonds with each other. Essentially, a polycule is the "relationship web" that forms when multiple people are involved in non-monogamous dynamics.

The structure of a polycule

The structure of a polycule can vary greatly depending on the individuals involved and the nature of their relationships. Just as in a family, there can be different levels of connection between people. Each person in the polycule may have different relationships with others, and these relationships can overlap, creating a complex web of interactions.

A polycule includes all people in a particular non-monogamous setup—whether they are primary partners, secondary partners, or even people involved in more casual or platonic connections.

Every person within the polycule is interconnected, much like the “bubbles” created during the COVID-19 pandemic, where social groups were formed and kept separate to minimise exposure. In this sense, a polycule can help illustrate the boundaries and connections between individuals in a polyamorous structure.

Different parts of a polycule

There are many ways a polycule can be structured depending on the relationships and the preferences of those involved. Here are some common terms used to describe different types of polycules:

Hinge

A hinge in a polycule is the one person (the "hinge") who is romantically or sexually involved with two or more people, but those people are not involved with each other. The hinge person connects the other partners in the polycule, but they may not have direct relationships with each other. In a hinge, each partner's relationship is primarily with the hinge person, rather than with each other. This is the most common type of polycule.

Triad

A triad is a polycule that includes three people who are all romantically or sexually involved with each other. In a triad, everyone is interconnected, and there may be equal or unequal dynamics among the individuals involved. For example, all three members might be in a balanced relationship, or there could be one "primary" relationship with two secondary partners.

Quad

A quad consists of four people, usually in two couples, who are connected romantically and sexually. In some quads, the couples are "primary" to each other, while in others, all four individuals may have relationships with each other. A quad can be a more complex and dynamic polycule, with multiple connections and interactions that may vary in terms of emotional and physical intimacy.

Platonic queer partners

In addition to romantic and sexual connections, a polycule can also include platonic relationships, particularly within queer communities. Platonic queer partners can play an important role in a polycule, as they offer emotional support, companionship, and care without the expectation of romantic or sexual involvement. These relationships can be especially meaningful in polycules where people may not desire romantic or sexual connections with all members, but still value deep connections and commitment.

Including platonic queer partners in a polycule can create a more inclusive and expansive network of relationships, one that acknowledges and celebrates different types of love and connection. These relationships can be just as significant as romantic ones and may play an essential role in the overall health and stability of the polycule.

Metamours in polycules

One key aspect of a polycule is the presence of metamours. Metamours are the partners of your partners with whom you may or may not have a romantic relationship. They are people who exist within the same polycule but are not directly involved with you. Understanding and respecting the relationships with your metamours can help maintain harmony and transparency within the polycule, especially when navigating complex dynamics.

Wrap-up

A polycule is an interconnected set of relationships within polyamory, with each person linked in some way, creating a web of emotional and romantic bonds. It can encompass all people involved, from primary partners to metamours, and is shaped by the unique dynamics of each non-monogamous setup. Whether it’s a hinge, triad, quad, or includes platonic queer partners, a polycule represents the diverse ways people can connect and build meaningful relationships.