With Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help

A weekly relationship advice podcast and written column for people who are or are considering non-monogamy or polyamory with consult from a therapist with 10 years of experience.

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After a few years of writing this advice column and producing the podcast, I’ve been working this past year on a book designed to help people either considering polyamory or non-monogamy or people who already have been and need a little help. It is available now!

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Non-Monogamy 101

“Thirteen Mistakes People Make When Trying Polyamory” will give you a good start on some of the basic considerations you should think over before starting.

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Non-Monogamy 102

One of my most popular articles, “Thirteen Things I Wish I’d Learned Before Choosing Non-Monogamy” are extra things to think about.

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Podcast Reviews

“Finding this podcast has changed the way I think about non monogamy in such a positive and helpful way. I would go as far to say, it’s changed my life for the better. And that’s just not hyperbole! Keep up the fantastic work!”
June 2021
“I’m so happy I’ve found your podcast. This has brought so much understanding of myself through emotions and understand the moments we are in. Patience and truth in myself – I look forward to hearing more. Thank you!”
Mar 2021
“You dispel so many myths about non monogamy and show people that having problems/ difficult emotions in non monogamous relationships doesn’t have to lead to switching to monogamy. ”
Sept 2020
“Your podcast and columns are helping me feel comfortable and ready to become non monogamous. I have mental health issues and that’s been difficult to manage along with becoming non monogamous. You have great insight and empathy while also being firm and blunt.”
Dec 2020
“This podcast covers a range of topics relating to polyamory in an open and honest way, with good advice on boundaries and handling difficult situations – well worth a listen 😊.”
July 2019
“I absolutely love this podcast. I wish there were more polyamory podcasts like yours because most of the one I’ve found are really boring and not as insightful as yours!”
Sept 2020

Meet Your Host

I have been writing fiction and non-fiction since I could remember. Most of my public articles have been focused on gender, disability and class and have always participated in multiple advice communities and loved giving advice. When I got a personal request for advice, I decided to start the podcast.

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