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The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix
About the Podcast
Non-Monogamy Help is released every other week and features a read aloud anonymised written letter or a recorded voice clip. The podcast is available on Anchor and wherever you get your podcasts as well as an RSS feed. More about the history of the podcast on the About page.
Non-Monogamy Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.
Most Recent Episodes
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Episode 100: Monogamy Is Not A Belief
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
Episode 99: Long Distance Jealousy
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
Episode 98: Mixed Signals is a Signal
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
Episode 97: When to Say When
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
Episode 96: Needing Distance After Dates
Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome?
Episode 95: Secretly Non-Monogamous
If you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong?
Episode 94: Clashing Triggers
It triggers you to open the relationship but it triggers your partner to close it. Is there any way to solve it?
Episode 93: Meeting Metamours
Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes experiences help us learn when we can also step away.
Episode 91: Hierarchies and Ethics
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Episode 90: Breakup News
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Episode 89: Mismatched Drives
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Episode 88: One Rule to Rule Them All
Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Episode 87: Showering Rules
When having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible.
Episode 86: No Exes as Friends
Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum.
Episode 85: Insecurity and Comparisons
You’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship?
Episode 84: Disclosure and Outing
You’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship?
Episode 83: Recycled Dates
What happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement
Episode 82: Dating Metamours
When your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it
Episode 81: Just FOMO
Thinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That’s what’s on
Episode 80: Trying to Convince
If you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy.
Episode 79: Outside Veto
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That’s what’s
Episode 78: Not Good Enough
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That’s what’s
Episode 77: Making the Leap
If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That’s what’s
Episode 76: No Way Out
If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That’s
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