Considering Polyamory

Whether you’re considering it or your partner has asked you about it, here are the entries we have for folks considering polyamory for themselves or their current relationships — both the good and the bad scenarios.

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Ethical vs healthy

Reading Time: 7 minutes I’m new to the world of ENM and after lots of time spent reading– I’m more confused than ever! Before I get into all of it, I guess my concerns can be boiled down into two questions: 1) Is it possible to co-create an ethically non-monogamous relationship in which the majority of attention/ focus is …

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Regret after opening

Reading Time: 5 minutes My wife and I have been together for 17 years and very happily married for 13 years.For the majority of our marriage she has been unhappy in her own skin triggered by being over weight.  This lead to not wanting to engage in sexual activity. In the past 12 months she has lost an incredible …

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Becoming a third

Reading Time: 5 minutes Up until 2 months ago, I had no previous experience with poly[am] dating or poly[am] relationships. What draws me to solo poly[am] is I have very deep needs around emotional connection and physical intimacy, but I don’t want kids or to raise a family, I enjoy living alone, and I love a lot of alone …

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Preventing hurt feelings

Reading Time: 7 minutes I am fairly new to the world of non-monogamy, having only been introduced to it in May 2020. Through learning about the different constructs that can be applied to a designer relationship I have discovered that this lifestyle could suit me well. Mostly as it encourages me to address the multitude of insecurities and other …

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Giving up a marriage

Reading Time: 3 minutes I’m a married man of 30 years, and have made the decision that the rest of my years, which hopefully amount to a couple of decades will be spent pursuing non-monogamous relationship, polyamory lifestyle. Am I being selfish, or do I need to just give myself the permission to live without traditional terms and categories …

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