Non-Monogamy Help

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Infidelity and sex

How do you navigate the boundaries of STI prevention in an open relationship? Can you cheat and by polyamorous or is polyamory just another way of cheating — but ethically? These entries tackle sexuality, sexual expression, STIs and infidelity.

Episode 74: Dating Friendly

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen

Betraying yourself for others

My ex and I were together for a year and nine months. He was my first relationship and first sexual encounter. He is fifteen years my senior, and we met when I was eighteen. I didn't know about his actual age, or the fact he had a girlfriend on the

Episode 71: Feelings and Friends

We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you introduce the topic of STIs

Regret after opening

My wife and I have been together for 17 years and very happily married for 13 years.For the majority of our marriage she has been unhappy in her own skin triggered by being over weight. This lead to not wanting to engage in sexual activity. In the past 12

HSV 2 and polyamory

I've been in a wonderful V-triad for 3 years and I love my partner & metamour! Recently, I tested positive for genital herpes and they've both been beyond supportive but they seem *too supportive* which I didn't think could be possible. I suggested closing our triad indefinitely and even permanently to

Hiding partners from each other

I am monogamous, but I have been dating someone who identifies as poly for almost three years. We began our relationship while he had another girlfriend. That was a fairly traumatic time for me because I struggled with dealing with my emotions of jealousy, feeling less than and finding my

Fidelity and grief

I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying... Cancer... 2016 and 2018... My wife couldn't handle the effect of my ADHD with my grief which caused severe anxiety and depression... I can't really say I blame her. I was a nightmare. She has

Cheating and polyamory

I am at my wit’s end. I was engaged to be married this summer; in the fall (we postponed for COVID), my fiancé confessed he had cheated on me extensively over years. I already had a bunch of concerns about his behavior in our relationship that I sort of

Addressing sexual incompatibility

CW: This question contains explicit sexual discussion. I love my husband, we met almost 20 years ago now. We met online on an Alternative Lifestyle website. He was listed as a submissive and I a switch. We are the best of friends and I love him dearly. We were engaged

Slutshaming and polyamory

I identify as non monogamous, all my partners know that about me, and I feel very sure about this lifestyle for me. I’m currently closely dating a man who also claims that he is non monogamous, the last month we have been living with each other and I haven’