Turning a couple into a triad
You want a triad with your husband and female friend, but after one encounter, dynamics shifted unexpectedly. How do you navigate this?
Lola Phoenix
When you should be happy, but you’re not
Your husband wants polyamory but won't let you explore it. You're struggling with this unfair dynamic after years of infidelity.
Hierarchies and emotional responsibility
Navigate couples privilege denial in triads and manage emotional labor when partners won't take responsibility for your insecurity.
Successful solo polyamory and control
You're breaking up with your partner to pursue solo polyamory, but aren't sure how to actually do it—or what to expect along the way.
Useless Polyam Advice: Jealousy vs. Fear
You're feeling insecure about polyamory and assume it's jealousy — but what if it's actually fear? Here's why that distinction matters.
Can you become polyamorous?
Can polyamory work if past trauma keeps getting in the way? Explore whether you can change your feelings or if it's incompatible with healing.
Useless Polyam Advice: Self-worth
"Just believe in yourself" doesn't help polyam insecurity. We explore what actually works when you're scared your partner will leave.
Five reasons ‘Couples privilege’ doesn’t exist
Does "couples privilege" in polyamory really exist? I break down why this concept might be more complicated than it seems—and what we should use instead.
How to break up in polyamory
Navigate honest breakups in polyamory: balance giving closure while protecting feelings when attraction fades but emotions run deep.
The hierarchy polyamorous people don’t talk enough about
Hierarchical polyamory gets criticized, but there's a hidden hierarchy we rarely discuss: how much we value sex in relationships over emotional intimacy.