Courses and Workshops
Learn more about the courses and workshops I offer.
Move from theory to practice
Whether you're just starting to explore polyamory or you're already navigating its messier emotional terrain, these resources give you practical, grounded tools—without the fluff. Everything here is rooted in real experience, not theory, and designed to meet you where you are.
- Fast Track Your Polyamory (course)
- Following the Thread: Managing Difficult Emotions (workshop)
- Is Polyamory for Me? (workshop)
- Mastering Metamour Relationships (workshop)
Fast Track Your Polyamory
Stop feeling overwhelmed by opening up. A self-paced course for anyone beginning (or re-beginning) their journey.
Figuring out polyamory shouldn't require reading 1,700 pages of books before you feel like you know what you're doing. Fast Track Your Polyamory cuts through the noise and gives you the foundational knowledge you actually need—from understanding relationship structures to managing the anxiety that comes with opening up.
The course is broken into manageable, focused lessons you can work through on your own schedule, whether you're processing something that happened last week or preparing for a conversation you've been putting off.
What you’ll learn:
- Identify your structure: How to choose a relationship style that fits your life, not someone else's ideal.
- Work with jealousy: Why anxiety shows up and how to handle it without spiraling.
- Protect your nervous system: Why anchoring and scheduling are the most effective ways to maintain security.
- Communication frameworks: Practical tools for having clearer, less reactive conversations with partners.
What's included:
- Full video course broken into bite-sized lessons.
- Optional drip-feed or all-at-once access.
- Regular office hours with me.
What students say: "Your course and your book have had a deep emotional impact on me. The way you explore non-monogamy with such honesty, care, and nuance really spoke to me. Your course helped me realize how much of my inner conflict stems not just from the relationship structure itself, but from internalized shame, patriarchal expectations, and the absence of any social scripts for something different. Your work is brave, generous, and so important. Thank you for sharing it with us — it's opened a door I didn't even know I was allowed to knock on." — Luciana Brücker, Student
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Following the Thread
End the anxious looping. A 45-minute workshop on navigating jealousy, anxiety, and overwhelm.
Sometimes you don't need a whole course—you need a way through the moment you're in right now. Following the Thread is a focused, practical workshop that teaches you how to sit with difficult emotions without spiraling.
Note for Swingers & Open Couples: While this workshop uses polyamory as a framework, the tools for navigating the "monogamy script" and "post-event" emotional drops are universal for anyone in the lifestyle or consensual non-monogamy.
What you’ll explore:
- Worst-case scenarios: Why your brain defaults to them and how to recognize the pattern early.
- Curiosity vs. Looping: The difference between following a useful emotional "thread" and getting tangled in anxious thoughts.
- The Monogamy Script: How cultural expectations shape fears that have nothing to do with your personal failure.
- Self-Trust: Practical techniques for building internal security rather than relying on constant external reassurance.
Format: Downloadable recording — watch in your own time, come back to it whenever you need it.
What students say: "I found Lola's 'Following The Thread' class to be a powerful tool for uncovering hidden narratives that have kept me small and while revealing wounds that I had thought long healed that needed tending to in order to release some long held tension and sadness. Lola's creativity made the work interesting and their knowledge made it incredibly valuable. As a Polyamorous person, educator and relationship coach, I can't recommend this class enough to anyone who's looking for a way to uncover even more limiting beliefs and unconscious narratives that may be holding you back from the life you desire." - Greg Million, Polyamorous Educator & Relationship Coach, EmpoweredPoly.ca
Is Polyamory For Me?
Stop waiting for certainty. A 50-minute interactive workshop on figuring out what you actually want from your relationships.
Most people come to this question expecting a yes or no. But the honest answer is usually messier, and more interesting, than that. Is Polyamory for Me? is a live workshop that helps you look at your own picture with curiosity rather than panic, without pressure to land on a verdict.
Note for people already practicing: This workshop is not just for the curious. If you are already in non-monogamy but have never stopped to ask whether you would choose it fresh, the solo test exercise alone is worth your time.
What you will explore:
- Your anchor: What you would actually be protecting if polyamory worked for you, and why this matters more than whether you want it.
- The solo test: A single question that cuts through a lot of noise about whether polyamory is genuinely for you or something you are rationalising your way into.
- Wanting vs working: The difference between desiring polyamory and being in a place where it fits, and why that gap is not a moral failing.
- Ambiamory: Why this might not be a yes or no question at all, and where the middle ground lives.
Format: Downloadable recording. Watch in your own time, come back to it whenever the question resurfaces.
What attendees say: "The workshop left me with more questions than answers but this gave me a solid foundation to answering the question for myself, is polyamory for me?" — Brandon, US
Mastering Metamour Relationships
Stop treating your partner's partner like a threat. A 2-hour interactive workshop on building a metamour relationship that actually works for you.
Mononormativity teaches us that a partner having another partner is a threat to be managed. Non-monogamy asks us to unlearn that, but knowing it intellectually and actually feeling it when you're introduced to your partner's partner for the first time are two different things. How Do I Relate To My Metamour? is a live workshop for figuring out what role you actually want with the people your partners love, without a script telling you what that "should" look like.
A note on the hinge: This workshop isn't only for people building a relationship with a metamour directly. If you're the hinge, the person in the middle of two (or more) partners, the sections on disclosure boundaries and passive vs. good hinging are built with you in mind too.
What you will explore:
- Polycule shapes: The real differences between kitchen table, parallel, garden-party, and other polycule styles — and why the "right" one is whichever one your specific people can sustain, not the one that looks best from outside.
- Competitive to compersive: What's actually happening when you feel threatened by your partner's other partner, and the honest, non-linear path from competition toward collaboration — and maybe compersion.
- The good hinge test: How to tell whether your shared partner is holding the dynamic well or quietly passing their discomfort on to you, and what's genuinely your job to manage versus theirs.
- Disclosure lines: Where privacy ends and secrecy begins — negotiating what gets shared across the polycule when everyone's comfort level with disclosure is different.
- When it goes sideways: A practical approach to drama, whether it's tension between you and your metamour or fallout inside one of the underlying relationships.
Format: Live, 2 hours, hosted by Leanne (@polyphiliablog) and Lola (@nonmonogamyhelp), drawing on their combined 20+ years across a wide range of polycule styles. Includes a live audience Q&A.