Episode 89: Mismatched Drives
Reading Time: 16 minutes Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Infidelity and Sex
How do you navigate the boundaries of STI prevention in an open relationship? Can you cheat and by polyamorous or is polyamory just another way of cheating — but ethically? These entries tackle sexuality, sexual expression, STIs and infidelity.
Episode 88: One Rule to Rule Them All
Reading Time: 11 minutes Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent.
Episode 86: No Exes as Friends
Reading Time: 11 minutes Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum.
Episode 74: Dating Friendly
Reading Time: 10 minutes In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen here on or on Anchor, our new podcast …
Betraying yourself for others
Reading Time: 3 minutes My ex and I were together for a year and nine months. He was my first relationship and first sexual encounter. He is fifteen years my senior, and we met when I was eighteen. I didn’t know about his actual age, or the fact he had a girlfriend on the other side of the country (we were …
Episode 71: Feelings and Friends
Reading Time: 6 minutes We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you introduce the topic of STIs to someone you’re interested in dating or sleeping with? Listen …
Regret after opening
Reading Time: 5 minutes My wife and I have been together for 17 years and very happily married for 13 years.For the majority of our marriage she has been unhappy in her own skin triggered by being over weight. This lead to not wanting to engage in sexual activity. In the past 12 months she has lost an incredible …
HSV 2 and polyamory
Reading Time: 3 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. I’ve been in a wonderful V-triad for 3 years and I love my partner & metamour! Recently, I tested …
Hiding partners from each other
Reading Time: 3 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. I am monogamous, but I have been dating someone who identifies as poly for almost three years. We began …
Fidelity and grief
Reading Time: 4 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying… Cancer… 2016 and 2018… …