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Jealousy and polyamory

How do you deal with feelings of jealousy in polyamory? It's the question almost everyone asks -- and it comes up fairly often in columns and podcasts.

How to ask for reassurance

Much of the advice I have seen about dealing with jealousy in polyamorous relationships involves telling your partner so that you can communicate about it. When I tell my long term partner I am jealous of him and his girlfriend it makes him very sad, and he begins to avoid

Getting over a partner's sexual history

I am 34 years old, female and since more than 10 years I am in an open relationship with my boyfriend. We follow the concept of a “primary relationship” (so most of our daily life we live like a monogamous couple) but we are free to have external sexual contacts.

Episode 52: Anxious After Marriage

Anxiety can often become so overwhelming that you begin thinking non-monogamy just isn't for you. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is your ideal living situation? With or without partners? How would you organise your space? Listen below. You

Episode 51: Conversion Therapy

What happens when you're done with polyamory and want to seek therapy to convert you to a monogamous person? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned from previous relationships? Listen below. You can

Addressing sexual incompatibility

CW: This question contains explicit sexual discussion. I love my husband, we met almost 20 years ago now. We met online on an Alternative Lifestyle website. He was listed as a submissive and I a switch. We are the best of friends and I love him dearly. We were engaged

When your partner isn’t satisfied

CW: This week’s column discusses mentions of weight loss. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years now and over the last year I've put on some weight, I've always been a little chunky but now it’s become a real issue

Episode 44: You Don’t Need 5 Partners

What happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What often impairs your decision making process? Lack of confidence, impatience desire to please, overexcitement… Listen below. You can also find the

Polyamory as a last chance

My marriage of 13 years is about to end due to my wife’s infidelity. She cheated in 2010 and this past summer in the wake of my brother’s suicide she dove into an emotional affair with a long-time friend of both of us. This experience has fractured numerous

Episode 43: What If It Ends?

What happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: In your worst fears, what might your colleagues at work be criticising you for behind your back? Listen below. You can also find the podcast

Do gay men have to be non-monogamous?

I’m a gay man (24) and I’ve never been in a serious relationship, and right away I can anticipate that the advice might be I don’t know what I want yet. But I feel really strongly that I do. I’ve thought about this since I started