Episode 86: No Exes as Friends
Reading Time: 11 minutes Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum.
Switching Closing and Abuse
These entries are for those trying to figure out the right time to break up, regretting opening or wanting to close the relationship and also for those who may be in dangerous situations.
Changing agreements
Reading Time: 3 minutes My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We’ve been practicing polyam off and on throughout our marriage. Recently we decided to open up. We made agreements and decided on our relationship dynamic. He met someone and didn’t say anything. I finally figured it out and asked directly about her. He said she …
Episode 74: Dating Friendly
Reading Time: 10 minutes In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen here on or on Anchor, our new podcast …
Being thrown away
Reading Time: 4 minutes I had until recently a relationship with a partner, we were together for 1,5 years. He was wonderful, fun, loving. He lives in a different city but would come to visit me every other month. He has another partner who he has been with for a little more than two years. Last fall she moved to …
Betraying yourself for others
Reading Time: 3 minutes My ex and I were together for a year and nine months. He was my first relationship and first sexual encounter. He is fifteen years my senior, and we met when I was eighteen. I didn’t know about his actual age, or the fact he had a girlfriend on the other side of the country (we were …
Episode 70: Half Ghosting
Reading Time: 10 minutes What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and …
Episode 62: More Metamour Toxicity
Reading Time: 10 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question.Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That’s what’s …
Episode 61: PTSD and Polyamory
Reading Time: 15 minutes This content is 1 year old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question.A previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? …
Episode 51: Conversion Therapy
Reading Time: 9 minutes This content is 2 years old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question.What happens when you’re done with polyamory and want to seek therapy to convert you to a monogamous person? That’s …
Torn in a triad
Reading Time: 3 minutes This content is 2 years old which means my opinions or advice on this issue may have changed. Please, read this page keeping its age in your mind and feel free to re-ask a similar question. My primary significant other(Girl A) and I have been together for nearly six years now. Two years ago we …