Boundaries vs. Rules in Polyamory: What's the Difference?
Learn the key difference between boundaries and rules in polyamory relationships. Discover why they matter for healthy communication.
Lola Phoenix
Episode 193 - Recovering from Cults
Not wanting an anchor partner, cohabitation, or kids doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you, especially when you’ve spent your whole life saying yes to things that didn’t feel good.
Autism, Polyamory, and Reading Social Cues About Love
Told someone you love them and they didn't say it back? You didn't ruin anything. Love isn't transactional—here's why that's okay.
When You Get the Hard Work and Your Metamour Gets the Fun
Feeling stuck with hard work while your partner has fun with their metamour? Learn how to ask for quality time without conflict.
Episode 192 - Long Distance Priority
A partner with a long-distance, hierarchical dynamic wonders if wanting dedicated phone calls and a family introduction is asking too much. It isn't.
Episode 191 - Cheating, Not Polyamory
Repeated cheating, gaslighting, and coerced sex get dressed up as non-monogamy. On telling the difference, setting a boundary, and when to bring in outside support.
When Your Long Distance Friend Doesn't Want a Relationship
Polyamory won't make unrequited feelings mutual. Learn why accepting reality is the kindest choice when distance and mismatched feelings collide.
Episode 190 - Anxiety Misfiring
Anxiety about a partner's other relationships isn't a malfunction. It's a fear shaped by a monogamy-centric upbringing. On self-compassion, control, and what you can actually manage.
How Much Dating Is Too Much in Polyamory?
When your partner spends 12+ hours a day online dating and flirting, it's easy to get consumed by tracking their connections.
Episode 189 - Pre-Approving Partners
A partner accused of cheating despite following the rules asks how much control is too much. On confronting, consenting, or cutting ties with a controlling agreement.