You may feel like you always have to disclose when you develop feelings for someone, but this may not actually be the case.
Living with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge.
Knowing what boundaries are “reasonable” and which aren’t can be complicated in polyamory, especially when difficult feelings are involved.
When you can't stop comparing yourself against your metamour and are worried about your partner's identity affecting your relationship.
When you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship.
Sometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship.
You’re slowly and slowly losing the time you have with a metamour and you’re not quite sure how to navigate their boundaries around their time.
There is a difference between a partner making a request and a demand and you should care less about what polyam influencers think of your agreements.
A friends with benefits situation that seems like it might go into something more because your FWB complains about their partner may seem ideal but it’s actually not.
Agreeing to things you don't actually want quite often creates a lot more problems than it needs to down the line.