Emotional Responsibility and Metamours

What emotional responsibilities do you have in a relationship and where do the end? How do you navigate relationships with metamours? These are for and about negotiation.

Changing agreements

Reading Time: 3 minutes My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We’ve been practicing polyam off and on throughout our marriage. Recently we decided to open up. We made agreements and decided on our relationship dynamic. He met someone and didn’t say anything. I finally figured it out and asked directly about her. He said she …

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Shunned in a triad

Reading Time: 7 minutes About four months ago, my long-term girlfriend (Z) and I opened our relationship to include her best friend (A). Seemingly everyone was ok with this, nonmonogamy is something I’ve been interested in, but never experienced. Z and A have also been friends for a very long time and have dabbled somewhat in nonmonogamy before. They …

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Emotions are not demands

Reading Time: 4 minutes Do you have any constructive advice for someone loving with a Meta as a roommate? It’s been uniquely difficult compared to previous relationships. I am struggling with the amount of time my primary partner now spends with their new partner. My primary and I have been together monogamously for about 5 years and just opened …

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Being thrown away

Reading Time: 4 minutes I had until recently a relationship with a partner, we were together for 1,5 years. He was wonderful, fun, loving. He lives in a different city but would come to visit me every other month. He has another partner who he has been with for a little more than two years. Last fall she moved to …

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Episode 70: Half Ghosting

Reading Time: 10 minutes What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and …

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Episode 68: Mismatched Labels

Reading Time: 12 minutes If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. Episode 68 – Mismatched Ideals by Non-Monogamy Help Episode …

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Becoming a third

Reading Time: 5 minutes Up until 2 months ago, I had no previous experience with poly[am] dating or poly[am] relationships. What draws me to solo poly[am] is I have very deep needs around emotional connection and physical intimacy, but I don’t want kids or to raise a family, I enjoy living alone, and I love a lot of alone …

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Episode 66: Hidden Metamour

Reading Time: 7 minutes Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. Episode 66 …

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