Episode 187 - Ex Becomes a Metamour
No relationship is inherently safer than any other, and trying to control every possible outcome only breeds the fear it's meant to prevent.
Topic
Responsibility and metamours
What emotional responsibilities do you have in a relationship and where do the end? How do you navigate relationships with metamours? These are for and about negotiation.
Episode 186 - Communication Versus Gaslighting
Telling someone they're wrong when they see withdrawal of affection is gaslighting-adjacent, even if unintentional.
Episode 185 - Relationship Anarchy and Autonomy
Autonomy means freedom to make choices, but those choices affect others. Listen to Episode 185 on relationship anarchy and autonomy.
Marriage and Polyamory
An exploration of how to handle a deepening new relationship while engaged and why marriage can be redefined to fit a non-hierarchical life.
Episode 184 - Dating a Co-Worker
Shrinking to make space in a partner's life only suffocates oneself and creates resentment that will eventually become unavoidable.
Resentment in Polyamory
An exploration of why intellectual acceptance cannot fix a basic incompatibility in needs and how to stop rejecting yourself in a relationship.
Plan Changes in Polyamory
An exploration of why permission-based rules fail during spontaneous plan changes and how to shift from "default time" to intentional scheduling.
The "Heads Up" Rule
Learn why "heads up" rules often create more conflict than clarity and how to transition from permission-based agreements to healthy autonomy.
When Transparency Requests Feel Like Control
Seeking transparency in a polyamorous relationship, but constant questions make your partner feel controlled. Finding the balance.
Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory
Is it possible to be kitchen table polyam and also have parallel relationships? Absolutely. There is no rule. Listen to Episode 174.