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Jealousy and polyamory

How do you deal with feelings of jealousy in polyamory? It's the question almost everyone asks -- and it comes up fairly often in columns and podcasts.

See-sawing feelings in polyamory

About three months ago, I started seeing a girl (let’s call her Jenny) who I knew through a mutual friend (I’m a cis straight man, she’s a cis bi girl, neither of us have any prior experience with non-monogamous dating) with the understanding that we would stay

9 ways toxic parenting impacted your non-monogamy

When reading the opening preface of a self-help book makes you cry, that’s when you buy the book. And that happened to me twice when I read the forward of both Stop Walking on Eggshells and Toxic Parents. Reading these and several other books were the beginnings of me

Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy

Updated July 2025 When you first learn about polyamory or non-monogamy, what most people call ‘open relationships’, you’ll likely be directed to several publications: The Ethical Slut, Opening Up, and the website More Than Two. And these were things I read when I started my journey into non-monogamy. Quickly

Non-monogamy and fear

When happening upon polyamory, most people are referred to the same sort of material. The book “Opening Up” is often recommended, “The Ethical Slut” and “Sex at Dawn” are becoming some of the popular things to point people toward. Most people are told that there’s no one right way

Why I don’t identify as “poly”

Around two or so years ago, I identified as “polyamorous”. In 2012, I stopped calling myself “poly” for a variety of reasons, and instead chose to call myself “non-monogamous”. I want to share the reasons I stopped associating with the poly[am] community in part as a way to express