When your partner marries another

I and my partner have a non-monogam[ous] relationship for about 1.5 years. I have a question about non-monogamy. 1. Can non-monogamous [people] marry? 2. Do they marry only one of the partners? 3. Do you think that married breaking the rules of nonmonogam[ous] relationship? My partner has

Thirteen Mistakes People Make When Trying Polyamory

Updated July 2025 So, you’ve decided to give polyamory or some form of non-monogamy a shot but you’re not quite sure where to start or you might even be wondering if you’re polyamorous or not. Maybe you have read a few things here and there or nothing

Episode 30: How to Not Care

If you’ve replaced your partner’s primary, how do you stop caring that you’ll be replaced too? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What was the first thing you bought with your own money? Listen below. You can also find

Overcoming vaginismus in polyamory

I've had vaginismus and vulvodynia for the past few years which made vaginal sex impossible for me due to the pain. I’ve been in love and a relationship through this with my partner who as a consequence of my health has also been sexually dormant for about

Episode 29: Preventing Cheating

Can opening up your relationship prevent your partner from cheating? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What’s some of the best advice you’ve ever gotten? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. https:

Is it better to hide your feelings?

One day, after being monogamous married for 7 years, I found out my husband was in love with his coworker. It felt like cheating to me but he said that he discovered that he was polyamorist his whole life but never act on it before. I accept his new conditions.

Episode 28: Unhealthy or Incompatible

What do you do if your partner wants no restrictions but you need reassurance that what you have means something? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What do you think of public displays of affection (PDA)? Listen below. You can also find

Why couples always want a triad

I’m looking for some advice on how to add someone to our relationship. My husband and I recently discussed opening our marriage up to another woman with the end goal of having a closed triad but in reality there’s only one woman in my mind. She’s a

Episode 27: Signs of Seriousness

How do you know your relationship is ‘serious’? Is asking about it going to bug your partner too much? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Would you lie to make your partner happy? When does a good lie become a bad lie?

Metamour makes all the rules

My partner J and I have been dating almost a year, though due to our schedules/long distance we only hang out 1–2 weekends on average a month. We call and text often. We tell each other we love each other. J has a long-term (several years) nesting partner,