Monogamous partner in non-monogamy

My partner and I have been together 5 years and are in our early 30s. We identified as a cis/het couple; however, he recently came out as queer to me. And I think I am too — if I were currently single, I would be interested in pursuing women/non-binary/

Episode 20: Unethical Non-Monogamy

Your marriage doesn’t have passion but a new friendship does. How do make what’s been unethical ethical? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. Or, conversely, use our RSS

Relationship broken? Add people.

To get straight to it, I am a queer black woman and I have been in a relationship with another queer black woman for about eight years. We were friends before for about 4 years and always had a crush on each other but never got together because we were

Episode 19: Is Polyamory Lazy?

Is polyamory just an easy way to go from person to person to get what you want. Or is there more to it than that? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other

Managing trauma and polyamory

I’m a 33 year old man with significant relationship trauma and abandonment issues. My partner of six years has, until recently, only had two partners; I was the only partner of the two she maintained a sexual relationship with, in what used to be a Dom/sub dynamic. She

Episode 18: Monster of a Metamour

You don’t get along with your metamour and what’s more — you think they might be unhealthy for your partner. What do you do? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Listen to Episode 18. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple,

Should I date a couple?

How do you enter a new poly (triad) relationship and ensure that it can be as equitable/fair as possible? I am interested in a couple but hesitant about them only wanting to play together. It sounds exhausting and inflexible. I am not experienced in this, but two-on-one dynamic sounds

Don’t you get jealous?

When I tell people that I am not monogamous or I try to explain polyamory, the first question they tend to ask is, “Don’t you get jealous?” For some people, the thought of their partner being interested in, let alone dating someone else creates so much pain for them

Episode 17: Delaying The Inevitable

Your partner has agreed to open your relationship, but you’re afraid to make the first leap. Should you wait until they have a date first? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and

Can I be replaced?

I have been in a poly relationship for six months now and just recently, my boyfriend started having two other serious relationships. Before that, he just had flings. And I feel so threatened by these other women. I know my bf loves me and he cares a lot about me