Changing your mind in polyamory

I’m a woman and I had only ever been in monogamous relationships. About a year ago I met a man through Tinder who made it very clear he’s non-monogamous from the start. In fact, on our first date, he asked me how I feel about it and explained

STI boundaries and polyamory

I really hope you read your inbox often because my partner and I are having a hard time processing some feelings about our newly ‘’non-monogamous’’ status. We both like having sex with other people together and separately, and we have recently discussed being ok with us having sex with other

When a partner becomes violent

CW: Domestic violence I have been married to a man for over ten years now. He has always been controlling and dominating because that’s how he shows he cares. He has had issues with anger over the years. Despite all this, I liked him and we have been good

An easy way into polyamory

Just wanted to say thoughtful, and thought provoking article, but WOW, it was amazing how you managed to work a misplaced dig on capitalism. So let me ask you this; what in the heck does the voluntary exchange of goods or services at a mutually beneficial and agreed upon price

Telling a crush you’re polyamorous

Hey (sorry, english is not my first language, I’m from Brazil) After much talk and many opinions being exposed in a clear and sincere way, my boyfriend and I finally agreed about start a non monogamy relationship. But contrary to what I imagined, right now I’m feeling terrified.

Emotional support and polyamory

I am a 45yr old female (monogamous). Nearly a year ago I met a man who is 43 yrs old and identifies as polyamorous. I had never heard of it and was curious. At first I dismissed it as being an excuse to have several partners (sexual) but after he

How to find other polyamorous people?

Thanks for your posts, I’m obsessively reading them after I read the “thirteen reasons”. I am so warm inside after that. Being anxious and having problems to begin relationship (even non amorous or sexual) and sensorial sensitivity, living with my partner and feeling alone.. It’s really rare to

Can you control who your partner dates?

I’ve been in a serious relationship with a guy who has recently started to identify as poly[am]. He still has strong feelings for two of his ex girlfriends, but when he and I started dating neither of them was available (and they still aren’t, one is in

When non-monogamy hurts

Let me start by saying I’ve always been a monogamist. I was married for over twenty years before my wife and I divorced. Last year I met someone I’ll call Lily. Lily and her girlfriend had been together for over 10 years. They had lived together briefly before

Cheating in polyamory

I’ve been seeing someone for about 7 months now. About 2.5 months ago we discussed our relationship, and the outcome of the conversation was that he doesn’t want to be exclusive. I have never been in a non monogamous relationship but I told him that I was