Struggling to find partners

CW: This letter discusses some adult themes pretty explicitly. I’m 29 and would love to enter a polyamorous relationship but there are several things holding me back from going out and start dating someone: 1) I never had a relationship before in any shape or form so I’m

Episode 76: No Way Out

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became a hard limit for

Pushed into polyamory

My boyfriend of just a few months decided that he will not be happy and will eventually cheat if he cannot be non-monogamous. Going into this he knew my views on being monogamous but I did not know his. He only said that in the past he's a

Episode 75: Overreacting

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became

Honest from the beginning

I recently tracked down a guy who was an almost boyfriend in college. I had already met my future husband, even though we weren't dating yet, and that held me back. Even though we never got together, this guy and I really clicked as friends & he even

Episode 74: Dating Friendly

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen

Being thrown away

I had until recently a relationship with a partner, we were together for 1,5 years. He was wonderful, fun, loving. He lives in a different city but would come to visit me every other month. He has another partner who he has been with for a little more than

Episode 73: Caveat Emptor

It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What “meaning” do you attach to sex, if any? And why? This episode

Betraying yourself for others

My ex and I were together for a year and nine months. He was my first relationship and first sexual encounter. He is fifteen years my senior, and we met when I was eighteen. I didn't know about his actual age, or the fact he had a girlfriend

Episode 72: Problematic Pedestal

When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you deal with expressions of emotion? Sadness? Anger This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Use our affiliate link